Meantime Girl

I was rummaging through one of our old blogs looking for a certain post when I found this. Thought about re-posting it here.. ūüėõ



She’s the one you call when you’re bored because she makes you laugh.¬†She’s the one you talk to when you’re feeling down because she’s¬†willing to lend an ear and be a friend.¬†She’s not the one you call when you need a date to your company’s¬†Christmas party, or to go dancing with on a Saturday night.¬†She’s the one you spend time with between girlfriends, before you¬†find “The One”.¬†You know, the one who you keep around in the meantime.

She’s not one of the guys, not a tomboy, but you don’t look at her as¬†a “real” woman, either.¬†She’s not bitchy enough, moody enough, or sexy enough to be seen in¬†that light.¬†She’s too laid-back, too easily amused by the same things your male¬†buddies are amused by.¬†She’s too understanding, too comfortable – she doesn’t make you feel¬†nervous or excited the way a “real” woman does.¬†But she’s cool,and nice, and funny, and attractive tough that when¬†you’re lonely or horny and need intimate female companionship, she’lldo just fine.¬†You don’t have to wine and dine her because she knows the real you¬†already, and you don’t have any facades to keep up, no pretenses to¬†preserve.¬†You’re not trying to get anything of substance out of her.¬†She’s not easy, but you know that she cares about you and is¬†attracted to you, and that she’ll give you the intimacy you need.¬†And you know you don’t have to explain yourself or the situation,¬†that she’ll be able to cope with the fact that this isn’t the¬†beginning of a relationship or that there’s any possibility that youhave any real romantic feelings for her.¬†It won’t bother her that you’ll get up in the morning, put on yourpants, say goodbye, and go on a date with the woman you’ve been¬†mooning over for weeks who finally agreed to go out with you.¬†She’ll settle for a goodbye hug and a promise to call her and tell¬†her how the date went.¬†She’s just so cool…why can’t all women be like that?!

But deep down, if you really think about it (which you probably don’t¬†because to you, the situation between the two of you isn’t important¬†enough to merit any real thought), you know that it’s really not¬†fair.¬†You know that although she would never say it, it hurts her to know¬†despite all her good points and all the fun you two have, you¬†don’t think she’s good enough to spend any real time with.
Sure, it’s mostly her fault, because she doesn’t have to give in to¬†your needs – she could play the hard-to-get bitch like the rest of¬†them do, if she really wanted to.¬†But you and she both know that she probably couldn’t pull it off.¬†Maybe she’s too short, or a little overweight, or has a big birthmark
on her forehead, or works at Taco Bell, or just really not that type.

Whatever the reason, somehow life has given her a lot of really great qualities but has left out the ones that men want (or think they want)in a woman. So she remains forever the funny friend, the steadfast companion, the secret lover, and you go on searching for your goddess who will somehow be everything you ever wanted in a woman.

You’ll joke to her that she should be the best man at your wedding,¬†and she’ll laugh and make a joke about a smelly rental tux.¬†She doesn’t captivate you with her beauty, or open doors with her
smile. Mainly she blends in with the crowd.¬†She’s safe.¬†She doesn’t want to be the center of attention and turn the heads of¬†everyone in the room.¬†But she wants to turn someone’s head.
She wants to be special to someone, too. We all do.

She has feelings.
She has a heart.
In fact, she probably has a bigger and better heart than any woman¬†you’ve ever known because she’s had a front-row seat to The Mess That¬†Is Your Life, and she likes you anyway.¬†She obviously sees something worthwhile and redeeming in you because
although you’ve given her nothing, absolutely no reason to still be¬†around, she is.

Anyway, yeah. I’m a Meantime Girl.
Been one more times than I care to admit.
I don’t know the reason, really, and at this point I don’t even care.
I just want to let every guy know who’s ever had the good fortune to
have a Meantime Girl that we may be a lot of fun, but we cry, too.
A lot.
And someday we won’t be around.

~An anonymous meantime girl~


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